Control the vibrations.Control the speed.Control the intensity.Choose a pattern that works for you and your body, whether it's a steady vibration or something more like pulses or waves (this can be changed on many toys). There are also some toys that feature different modes, including one where you control exactly how long each pulse lasts! If that sounds like fun to you, go for it! You can control the speed and intensity of the vibrations such as app controlled vibrators.You can change the vibration pattern.You can pause or turn off the vibration.You can use a vibrator during sex with your partner, or alone with no one else in sight!If you're using an app-controlled toy on yourself, then there's no need for anyone else to know what's going down in your bedroom (or wherever it may be). If you're trying out this type of toy with someone else, then they'll have complete control over what happens next--and that could be fun!